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Sunday 30 January 2011

Times Like This

Today has been difficult again. My weight was significantly higher than yesterday, which I knew it would be, but it still upset me a lot. When I am already struggling a lot gaining weight can really tip me over the edge. I have been very irritable again today. I have tried to stay as calm as possible, but a tiny comment can just make me snap and scream, and then 20 seconds later I will be ok again. I think it only happened once today - I told my dad I wanted to kill him, but then I calmed down again soon after. My temper does seem quite out of control at the moment though. Things have been ok with my mum. It was actually fine last night - things were normal when we got home but I was still feeling guilty, which was when I wrote last night. The night time was hard. I felt really alone. I ended up going downstairs at 4am and woke the dog up because I wanted a cuddle. He was very obliging, and didn't object to being woken up and cuddled in the middle of the night. Dogs are good like that. And then I came back upstairs but I was feeling really quite desperate. In the end I decided I would go and sleep in my mum's room at about 5am, so I went in there. I said to her that I was sorry for being horrible and she said that she was sorry too. I managed to fall asleep in there, and then woke up at about 9am due to bloody hammering from next door, and so then went back to my bed as it is a bit further away, and went back to sleep again.

The day has felt really long. I am finding it impossible to concentrate on anything or distract myself from my thoughts. Unless there is something I particularly want to watch, which there isn't usually, then I can't have the TV on when I feel like this - it just irritates me. Music is the same - I love music but I can't cope with the noise. Thinking even a day or two into the future sends me into a complete whirl, and trying to think further than that causes full blown panic attacks. The obvious solution is just to not let myself think ahead, but sometimes I can't help it. The more I think about the future, the more I want to die now. I hate that it is the weekend. I hate weekends. I find them really difficult. I think because I am not by myself as much, and I find that draining. We are going to see The King's Speech tomorrow. I have wanted to see it, but I know I won't be able to concentrate properly. I keep finding myself just sitting and staring into space. I keep wondering if I will get through this or not. I don't actually want to.

I might go and see my dog for a cuddle again. I don't think he will mind being woken up.

'A friendly face, the kind of face
That melts you with a grin.
The kind of eyes that welcome you
The minute you walk in.
A tender glance you simply can't refuse
At times like this a girl could use
A dog.

He listens when you tell him things,
There's nothing you can't say
And unlike certain people you can teach him how to stay
And if the world is giving you the blues
He cheers you up by chewing up the news.
It's things like that that make you choose
A dog.

Other people need romance, dancing, playing around.
Other people need constant fun, well I'm not one.
I have my feet on the ground.

Give me a quiet night, a stack of books
A tuna fish on rye.
A simple walk together
Underneath the starry sky.
And suddenly the night is something rare
And all because there's someone special there.
Who's gazing at the views.
His head upon your shoes.
At times like this, I sure could use
A dog'

- Times Like This, Lucky Stiff

4 comments:

  1. God sure knew what He was doing when he created dogs! *hugs*

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  2. Glad you can cuddle your dog. My cat is my reason alot of the time, having a presence around helps, one that doesn't talk or argue but accepts what I say or do with a purr.

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  3. Hugs x
    My dogs (one in particular) get me thru my darkest days. glad u have your for that too. Love that poem.
    Enjoy the Kings Speech if u can, I'd like to see it one day. At least it'll break up the day eh?
    Glad u went in to ur Mum too. We Mum's love our kids. I nearly when and hugged mine in middle of night last night as it was making me sad hearing her coughing. She punched me yesterday (she's 4 so I know that's young!) But, my point is, even if she behaves in a way I don't like I still love her (and my other daughter) and I'll still give her a cuddle when she needs one. I plan to do that for the rest of my life.
    Anyway, hugs, hugs, hugs...

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  4. Aw Bip. Don't feel bad - OK you said some not-very-nice things to your parents, it doesn't mean you're a bad person. *Everyone* has lost their temper (and yeah, parents - living with them is so hard). You're clearly really struggling at the moment.
    I wish you could get some proper help, and I hope you do soon. Keep cuddling your dog until then honey, animals are great and a lot more help than most people :-)

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